I know how difficult it is to find yourself rebuilding your life yet another time. It seems like such a long road ahead.
Actually, I was about to start a blog a few years ago when my dear friend and business partner of many years became very sick. He was diagnosed with cancer, had surgery and chemo, and then passed away. He had many unaccomplished goals. I can’t change what happened, but I can share what I’ve learned from my years of rebuilding.
Unfortunately, life doesn’t stop when our world turns upside down. I had responsibilities to handle, people to help, a car that died, had to search for another car, and had other major transitions. Each of us has to walk through the healing process at a pace that we alone can handle. That’s why the delay in starting my blog. Important to me in my healing process was asking God to help me heal in healthy ways so I wouldn’t drift into busyness to mask the pain.
Obviously, this is “not” my first loss or traumatic experience. I’ve had a lot of practice rebuilding my life. It’s likely not your first trauma or loss either. Together we can share what we’ve learned. I would like to do that by hearing what you’ve learned on your journey as we move forward
What I have learned from my most recent rebuilding process is that we have to allow ourselves the time needed to work through the shock of the trauma or loss. Why? When we are in shock, we do not make good decisions. So hold off on those important decisions (if possible) until you can again think clearly enough to consider all options and make wise choices. Healing is a slow process. Give yourself permission to go at a speed that is comfortable for you. Pay attention if friends say that you’re moving too fast too soon with decisions.
Yes, I’m rebuilding again, but I want to blog and to share my experiences to better help you rebuild your life. If you are also rebuilding from a recent traumatic event or loss, I would love for you to leave me a comment about something important you’ve learned while rebuilding. Thank you in advance for taking time to read this and for sharing your experiences.
Make the most of your rebuilding process!
2 thoughts on “Rebuilding again…”
Great post, and so true. Everyone has trauma and loss in their lives, in one way or another. It can shut you down if you let it.
Hearing how others have coped is helpful. Getting some ideas on steps to take is encouraging.
Your website will be helpful to many.
I’m glad you stopped by my site, Keith! My goal is to give people searching for help online some tips for rebuilding their lives. With the technology available now, when traumatic events occur, most people still have access to their cell phones (or get them back on quickly to keep in touch), so they can access online resources for help. Thank you for taking time to share your thoughts, Keith!